It can and does change your life! What we say matters! How we say it matters! The WORDS we use matter!
As you may know there is a study out there (Mehrabian) that states that effective communications is 55% body language, 38% tonality, 7% words. This highly quoted and important data point is used to highlight "effective communications" although research has shown that this data is based on a very small sample and used to measure the feelings and attitude of the speaker impact. This is very important too but not at the expense of the power of the WORD(s) we choose to use in creating our thoughts. Words have meaning and energy that affect how people feel what you are saying and how they are ultimately going to relate to the conversation or message. Key fact is today's social and online communication methods underscore the importance of the words we use since they can not see us, they can feel and do interpret what we are saying.
Most of what we say is not well thought out in advance especially the thoughts that pop into our head or the immediate response to something we know (we are operating at the unconscious level 95% of the time) and we go with it. Much of what we think about is “limiting” and creates low energy or negative outcomes that get in our way of desired outcomes.
Let’s look at a few examples of limited thoughts:
I can’t find time on the schedule for myself? I don’t have the ability to get it done? I know I won’t get that raise? If only I had this, than my life will be xxx? These are all negative outcomes! You can stop them simply changing your internal self-talk and bring positive things into your life by reframing your statements to:
I AM - is the statement of who you are (I am competent and skilled)
I CAN-is the statement of your potential (I can make time on my schedule for me, it’s important to me)
I WILL-is the statement of the positive change in your life (I will get this raise, I deserve it)
AND- (is another power word to use) It’s not or, if, but…it’s AND I… forward movement, positive energy
I AM designing my life and making time for things that matter to me
For those of you that know me well, you will relate to my constant focus and personal reminder on “what we think about, comes about” and my favorite saying “what we focus on grows bigger”…whether positive or negative it will arrive and it takes the same energy and effort to think…so why not choose the positive thought for a positive outcome.
Exercise for the week: Become mindful of what you are thinking about and how you can reframe it in a positive way… if you say something that doesn’t feel good, pause, reflect and reframe…it just takes a moment to make the shift and it’s the moments that matter in how our life is created….you are in charge of it and you can start right now changing the outcome at a moment’s notice.
Stay tune for more The Power Of series. In the meantime, if you are interested in a more detailed look at The Power of Voice and Choice, designing your desired life let’s connect. You can reach me by email at Carole@TurningPointInstitute.com, or call me at 617-299-1198.
Here’s to your personal power….
Carole
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