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The Power of Series - Thought!

The Power of Thought!

It can and does change your life!  What we say matters!  How we say it matters!  The WORDS we use matter! 

As you may know there is a study out there (Mehrabian) that states that effective communications is 55% body language, 38% tonality, 7% words.  This highly quoted and important data point is used to highlight  "effective communications" although research has shown that this data is based on a very small sample and used to measure the feelings and attitude of the speaker impact.   This is very important too but not at the expense of the power of the WORD(s) we choose to use in creating our thoughts.  Words have meaning and energy that affect how people feel what you are saying and how they are ultimately going to relate to the conversation or message.   Key fact is today's social and online communication methods underscore the importance of the words we use since they can not see us, they can feel and do interpret what we are saying.

Most of what we say is not well thought out in advance especially the thoughts that pop into our head or the immediate response to something we know (we are operating at the unconscious level 95% of the time) and we go with it.  Much of what we think about is “limiting” and creates low energy or negative outcomes that get in our way of desired outcomes.

Let’s look at a few examples of limited thoughts:

I can’t find time on the schedule for myself?  I don’t have the ability to get it done?    I know I won’t get that raise?  If only I had this, than my life will be xxx?   These are all negative outcomes!    You can stop them simply changing your internal self-talk and bring positive things into your life by reframing your statements to:

I AM - is the statement of who you are (I am competent and skilled)

I CAN-is the statement of your potential (I can make time on my schedule for me, it’s important to me)

I WILL-is the statement of the positive change in your life  (I will get this raise, I deserve it)

AND- (is another power word to use) It’s not or, if, but…it’s AND I… forward movement, positive energy

I AM designing my life and making time for things that matter to me

For those of you that know me well, you will relate to my constant focus and personal reminder on “what we think about, comes about” and  my favorite saying “what we focus on grows bigger”…whether positive or negative it will arrive and it takes the same energy and effort to think…so why not choose the positive thought for a positive outcome.

Exercise for the week:  Become mindful of what you are thinking about and how you can reframe it in a positive way… if you say something that doesn’t feel good, pause, reflect and reframe…it just takes a moment to make the shift and it’s the moments that matter in how our life is created….you are in charge of it and you can start right now changing the outcome at a moment’s notice.

Stay tune for more The Power Of series.  In the meantime, if you are interested in a more detailed look at The Power of Voice and Choice, designing your desired life let’s connect.  You can reach me by email at Carole@TurningPointInstitute.com, or call me at 617-299-1198.

Here’s to your personal power….

Carole
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Friday, September 16th on The Difference Radio network

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Every Challenge is a New Opportunity for Change!!

Every challenge is a new opportunity for change!  By Carole Sacino

Find this hard to believe?  Stay with me for a few minutes and just open your mind to the possibilities that there is a new opportunity regardless of the challenge you are facing today!

Now my head is not in the sand…I read the newspaper, listen to my friends, family, coaching clients and colleagues all facing insurmountable challenges in their life with major loss such as job, income, decline in their 401k, lost homes to foreclosure, serious illness, loss of a loved one, divorce…you name it…it is not good news!  Hopelessness, sadness, depression, fear, doubt and obstacles keeping us stuck!

Then you have some “optimist” that says…there is an opportunity here really!!!   Think about it-what goes up must come down, without success there is no failure, no pain- no gain, without bad you don’t experience good…you get it!  These things are the same just opposite sides of the spectrum and it is all how we perceive them…without one, we wouldn’t have the other!

This is not the view of an optimist (although we live by it) it is the “Law of Polarity”….a matter of fact no two ways about it.  It’s a universal law and like all universal laws…you cannot change that fact that they exists.  You cannot manipulate, fool or escape it so work with it!    So how do we create opportunity?

First step is awareness…really what is happening here?  Take a few minutes to assess your situation and ask yourself what do I want instead?  If I have what I want instead, what does that look like for me?  How will I feel if I experience the opposite of what I am experiencing today?  Now decide on what you want and make the choice….yes, it is that simple to make the choice to change your current outcome.  It all starts with this step!

The fastest and least painful path is the power of acceptance.  Did you know that acceptance of what you currently are experience acts as the polar opposite of resistance and will help you attract more of what you consciously desire!   One of my favorite sayings is ‘what we think about comes about’.   It starts with our thoughts, beliefs, feelings and actions.  And, I also believe our state of mind and thoughts change our outcome the second you change your thoughts.  There are times when I act “asif” it has already happened by working from the end result.I naturally assume it is happening and more times than not….the results show up!  It’s one of the major gifts of life that works like magic..really!

You have the power of choice to how you experience life.  Consider the possibilities, opportunities and change in your life you want and put your Intention, Attention and Action to changing just ONE thing that is challenging you today.  Write down all your beliefs about the situation and include all the frustration, anger and disappointment and release the negative thoughts.  Get a new piece of paper and create your desired outcome as if the choice is all yours (because it is!) and start creating what you want.

Stay tuned….more to come on the Power of series…..